tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post5288662268719700335..comments2023-03-24T02:37:31.357-07:00Comments on Adventures of a Gender Rebel: My First Trip to the Hair SalonFaith DaBrookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-26701078112553779102016-12-12T06:41:59.505-08:002016-12-12T06:41:59.505-08:00Hi Natalie, yes I think you should mention that yo...Hi Natalie, yes I think you should mention that you're trans or looking for a woman's haircut. If you're unsure about what cuts work, I would recommend getting advice from the stylist. They're the experts. To find a stylist, I would just try yelp in your area. I was lucky in that my laser was partnered with a hair salon that has gotten great review. If you're nervous, maybe call ahead and say your trans/androgynous/etc. and you're unsure about what would work for you (all true!) and gauge their reaction. I'm sure they'll be cool. The receptionist should also be able to clue you in on pricing and you can also get some background in the yelp reviews too. Tipping, I think is 20% standard and remember that should be in cash. Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-17988227798396596822016-12-11T13:55:51.183-08:002016-12-11T13:55:51.183-08:00Wow congrats on your first visit to a salon Faith!...Wow congrats on your first visit to a salon Faith! That is so awesome that hairstylist was so supportive of who the real you is! I don't think I could work with a stylist who wasn't supportive of the real me either. I hope you tipped her nicely after that appointment!<br /><br />I'm thinking of going to my first salon to have my hair styled a bit more feminine soon. I am not currently on HRT yet, but I have started to grow out my hair for the past 6 months (approx.) though. Granted I've gone in and had the sides shaved to a #2 fade out for aerodynamic purposes, but I still am growing the top hairs out. <br /><br />What suggestions do you have for me so that I can find a great stylist just like you did? Should I be honest and upfront with them how I am transgendered, or mention that later? How much should I expect to pay for each appointment? Should I start out with a unisex haircut, or start w/a feminine style?ShyNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09865574543897272791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-27449830462539047162016-12-04T12:40:28.356-08:002016-12-04T12:40:28.356-08:00You look great. The hair cut is sassy and such a c...You look great. The hair cut is sassy and such a cute smileAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-11110591463745249182016-12-02T08:16:25.496-08:002016-12-02T08:16:25.496-08:00Thanks, Rhonda! As time goes on my confidence grow...Thanks, Rhonda! As time goes on my confidence grows too. I'll get there soon!Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-63171711996833234382016-12-02T08:15:36.754-08:002016-12-02T08:15:36.754-08:00Oh my gosh, this whole transition thing takes so m...Oh my gosh, this whole transition thing takes so much patience, right?! I mean, everyone told me it was slow, but man is it slow!Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-24950964188791017602016-12-02T01:16:02.743-08:002016-12-02T01:16:02.743-08:00Faith:
Forget about your high hairline. We're...Faith:<br /><br />Forget about your high hairline. We're each our own worst critic. Your tousled pixie cut looks cute as a button on you. Your naturally femme facial features and great smiles (mouth AND eyes) carry the day. You just have the look of a good looking woman out and about in the world. You rock! Be confident in yourself and especially in your hair. You look great.<br /><br />Best,<br />RhondaRhonda Darlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09880722627262140271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-7537156471696872502016-12-01T20:50:36.788-08:002016-12-01T20:50:36.788-08:00You look outstanding! I totally agree - coming fro...You look outstanding! I totally agree - coming from really short hair/no hair tends to feel forever getting to that point where there is a bit of something to work with! And the messy hair sentiment - so true.(I've had luck with mousse/gel/blowdry and that so far has been my go to)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909227437936128648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-32009721686432332102016-12-01T12:58:15.782-08:002016-12-01T12:58:15.782-08:00Thanks, Maura. It's so funny because as a guy ...Thanks, Maura. It's so funny because as a guy I never smiled but as a girl I'm often smiling. People have noticed. <br /><br />Though I must say, that when I visited the South last year, I was weirded out by the whole small talk with strangers thing. Give me New York anonymity any day!Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-60747631969454650302016-12-01T11:22:00.565-08:002016-12-01T11:22:00.565-08:00Congratulations on your first salon visit! Don'...Congratulations on your first salon visit! Don't be demanding on yourself; look how far you've come in a year's time. Length will happen. As for your hairline, look at ciswomen. Many have high hairlines, some of them very high, for which I'm sure they've silently said, Gee, Dad, thanks for *that* gene.<br /><br />I'm photo-phobic, but all you have to do with this pixie cut is smile. I don't even wear makeup 97% of the time, but I do smile a neutral smile 90% of the time and am "ma'am"ed at the grocery and most every other place I visit. And I make small talk with salespeople & cashiers. All right, so I'm in the South now, where small talk is de rigueur.<br /><br />If shoe length or width bothers you, wear shoes with some heel, even if you're tall. Winter weather is made for boots with heels, especially in NYC.<br /><br />Not telling you anything you don't already know. The difference is mental. You're not dressing up as a girl (the dream), you're simply dressing as a girl (the practical).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10738164844662142917noreply@blogger.com