tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post5191911587045833433..comments2023-03-24T02:37:31.357-07:00Comments on Adventures of a Gender Rebel: How I Live NowFaith DaBrookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-91260479240603949862017-01-06T20:46:48.491-08:002017-01-06T20:46:48.491-08:00Hi Katherine - glad you found the blog and enjoyed...Hi Katherine - glad you found the blog and enjoyed it!Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-65142669107105197852016-12-19T16:51:12.655-08:002016-12-19T16:51:12.655-08:00That doesn't sound like reptile brain to me. T...That doesn't sound like reptile brain to me. That sounds like a woman's brain. Women cry like that when they get overwhelmed. Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18073938698640648192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-23438581837001138002016-12-12T06:38:16.320-08:002016-12-12T06:38:16.320-08:00Hi Natalie, that's so funny you mention MN bec...Hi Natalie, that's so funny you mention MN because my partner and I were just joking yesterday about how weird it was that we knew so many cool trans people in MN! Try looking up Minnesota T-Girls. I've heard they're a great group and hopefully someone there will know a good therapist in the area.Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-76105758376480316552016-12-11T13:43:25.846-08:002016-12-11T13:43:25.846-08:00Thanks for the advice Faith. I've already tri...Thanks for the advice Faith. I've already tried to find local support groups near me, but I haven't had success yet. I do live in a community (Twin Cities Metro area, MN) that is very supportive of the LGBT community so I guess that helps a bit.<br /><br />More realistically I am going to be looking for a good/supportive gender identity therapist who I can start to open up to. Besides a woman I'm at a loss on what I should be looking for. Do you have any advice on how I can find a great gender therapist?ShyNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09865574543897272791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-71946055407883129082016-12-11T07:30:08.837-08:002016-12-11T07:30:08.837-08:00Yeah, it's kind of funny because we'll rea...Yeah, it's kind of funny because we'll read trans blogs, trans websites, watch trans videos and it starts to look like almost everyone in the world must be trans and so many of them are young, bold and beautiful. And here I am with my doubts, wondering "Am I really transgender?" Of course I am! A cis person wouldn't have sought out hormones, or come out to people, or gone to work as a girl. It's just that we don't see everyone's doubts on display all the time. <br /><br />For you, I'd say maybe seek out a medical doctor who can prescribe HRT. Talk to them. Depending on where you are, that might be easy or difficult. But at least look. If it's difficult, find an LGBT community center or group in your area. There may be support groups/social groups where people can help give you advice on what steps you'll be able to take in your area. <br /><br />Good luck and thanks for reading/writing! -FaithFaith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-18822651759680654712016-12-10T23:42:57.299-08:002016-12-10T23:42:57.299-08:00Hey Faith. I'm not out yet, but this was such...Hey Faith. I'm not out yet, but this was such a powerful and yet emotional article to read. I've only recently gotten past my dysphoria that I am not transgender enough & just accepted it. I'm stressing out big time over what I need to do next, but after reading your story it's a relief (a bit) to know this still happens after you come out. I've been told this before, but you are not alone with your struggles you keep having. Big hugs sister. ShyNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09865574543897272791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-24635633201270895812016-12-08T08:49:12.300-08:002016-12-08T08:49:12.300-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-8119900303058570092016-12-07T17:32:05.160-08:002016-12-07T17:32:05.160-08:00Hello Faith. This is my first time on your blog. I...Hello Faith. This is my first time on your blog. I bookmarked it a couple days ago when I came across it for later viewing. Great blog, very well written, interesting articles. I guess every once in awhile our day-to-day stresses catch up to us and usually not at the most opportune time. From what I've read in your blogs, you're doing quite well particularly at work. Hang in there, take it a day at a time. Take pride in your accomplishments and know that you are living your true life. Hugs.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07866152354154309453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-7386539499504893922016-12-07T08:49:53.128-08:002016-12-07T08:49:53.128-08:00Thanks, Paula. I try and share the good and the ba...Thanks, Paula. I try and share the good and the bad. Yesterday was such a weird moment though; not good, but not bad either really. Just emotions coming out in a big ol' mess. Stupid reptile brain with all it's dumb emotions. Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-21985641087078503392016-12-07T08:48:52.789-08:002016-12-07T08:48:52.789-08:00There are people at my work who go out to lunch wi...There are people at my work who go out to lunch with coworkers every day? How do they do that? Lunch is my one chance at work to take a break from people! Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-35566440234243474502016-12-07T08:47:54.803-08:002016-12-07T08:47:54.803-08:00Hi M- A new wig every year? OMG what wigs are you ...Hi M- A new wig every year? OMG what wigs are you buying? Mine last a few weeks at best. <br /><br />Thanks for all your thoughts. Things are going well for me and the support that I've been getting from all the great people in the trans community has been invaluable!Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-66620774552386394052016-12-07T08:46:24.984-08:002016-12-07T08:46:24.984-08:00Thanks, Stana. Today, I feel much better. Not even...Thanks, Stana. Today, I feel much better. Not even sure why. Emotions are a funny thing. Faith DaBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263415486646681873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-2696811926245760092016-12-07T04:15:09.472-08:002016-12-07T04:15:09.472-08:00You are doing so well and are a true inspiration t...You are doing so well and are a true inspiration to those of us who dream of doing what you have dine. Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work, introspection and when necessary, tears.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06294065905695781433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-54168146703676377712016-12-06T22:56:24.478-08:002016-12-06T22:56:24.478-08:00*breaks out the kleenex and picks some for herself...*breaks out the kleenex and picks some for herself too* I definitely get that introvert social exhaustion. I love to do lunch walks just by myself so I just have me and my mind thinking all the things...<br />Take care <3Mireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08131943341163595884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-62884023378797806102016-12-06T20:06:51.500-08:002016-12-06T20:06:51.500-08:00Faith -
Hang in there. If I recall correctly, yo...Faith -<br /><br />Hang in there. If I recall correctly, you are on E. And that means you are going through a second puberty. Your feelings will be all over the place as your brain rewires itself (as it did for your masculine puberty with T) to function as a mature woman.<br /><br />Don't worry about the little stresses. You can always buy a new wig every year (I do so), and use the old ones as backups for those times you don't want to wear your good wig - such as if you are wading in a chlorinated pool and someone splashes you. (I've done this while cruising, and I was able to prevent a good wig from getting damaged.) <br />Regarding going to the bathroom - very few people notice (and less care) if your pee hits the water and makes noise, or whether it hits the edge of the bowl silently. If you worry about clothes, spend money on accessories and separates - this will add to the variety of outfits people see you wearing. Frankly, I don't give a damn if people see me in the same outfit - as long as it is in different weeks. And no one has ever commented negatively about any of the outfits I wear.<br /><br />From what I read in your blog, you are doing well. As a trans woman, you are taking an accelerated course in femininity, doing in months what cisgender women do in years and decades. Just be relaxed, and strive for your personal authenticity. Learn feminine body language, and mimic it as much as possible - so that it gets ingrained and becomes natural. I have listened to your voice, and you are further along than I am. You have a lot going for you, and you have accomplished a lot. Be proud of that!<br /><br />M<br /><br />Marianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18346866501735405647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5521813469132348201.post-25053789390898625022016-12-06T17:43:44.056-08:002016-12-06T17:43:44.056-08:00Hang in there, Faith. You are doing great and even...Hang in there, Faith. You are doing great and even greater days are in your future.Stanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10259788604423472207noreply@blogger.com